If we use Sonya Renés logic to start from our bodies as them being a widely agreed reality that we all share. Then what suppressing diverging bodies means is that we punished everything in us and outside of us that didn’t conform with the ideal of
Here are some norms and ideals that I could identify. I either applied them to my own body or saw other applying them to theirs. You can ask yourself whether that applies to you:
As a woman:
As a man:
As someone who doesn’t feel themselves fitting into the binary man-woman spectrum:
As someone who has a different skin color then white:
For everyone: have you ever looked down on someone (be it a woman for showing her femininity and her female body at work? .. at a man who dared to show his feelings? … at a homo- or bisexual, transgender person because they were different then you in their sexual/gender identity? .. at a person with another skin color then white?
I invite you to journal around these questions and to take them into your buddy-call.